Welcome to the 3rd part (in a 4 part series) of “I Wish You Knew….”. Part 1 was all about what Administrators wished you knew, part 2 was all about what Teachers wished you knew, and now Part 3 focuses on Parents!
I really wanted to gather great ideas and honest opinions from parents. So, besides just getting parents on social media channels to leave comments, I also sent out the form to the parents at my school in Navasota, Texas.
The responses were honest, they were raw, and they were real. Many of them made me tear up, a few made me flat out cry, but more importantly made me look at things through a different lens.
I hope you enjoy reading the responses of what parents wish educators knew, and be sure to check out next week’s final post in the series, all from the perspective of students. And make sure to share your thoughts on social media using the hashtag #iWishParents.
“As a parent, I wish you knew how much it means to me when you WANT to know about my child; about what makes him tick, about what makes him excited, about what makes him sad. I wish you knew that knowing a little bit of his background, like how his two brothers never came home from the hospital, or how his daddy has to travel for work, and were able to apply these things to mentoring him. I wish you knew that he is my everything, and I do expect you to leave the proverbial flock to find him if he has gone astray. I wish you knew that I support you, especially when you’re supporting him. I wish you would really take the time to know him – because knowing him has changed my life.”
“That when we mess up, we beat ourselves up more than you can imagine. We don’t enjoy being frustrated, angry, or harsh. We do our best day in and day out, but we screw up and through this hopefully we teach our kids the power of the words “I’m sorry, daddy messed up”. We hope that through our example our kids learn to take responsibility for their actions…good and bad!”
“That each child is different and as such must be rewarded and disciplined differently according to their personality.”
“I dread homework. I want to spend quality time with my child after a long day at work. I would rather read with her, help her where she is behind, teach her to cook, or work on our own learning projects. Instead we fight with each other over hours of pointless, busy, homework each night. I wish you knew, homework this year is damaging the relationship I have with my child. I wish we could look forward to homework each night.”
“Each child is different, so you can not treat them all the same, and expect the same outcome for each.”
“Teachers, I wish you knew that homework takes too much of my time with my kid! My kids work hard during the day at school – and after school if they do something extracurricular – and we want to spend time together as a family instead of battling homework every single night. Please, value my time with my child and allow work to stay at school.”
“I don’t like projects…especially elementary projects. But if you are going to send one home – it’s worthless to grade it because I already went to school…and passed. I don’t need to get graded again on a project that is essentially all my work because it is above the ability level of my child.”
“that my goal is to raise well-rounded children. I want them to be involved in leadership, in athletics, community service activities, and enjoy their educational experiences. I am not aiming for them to get 4.0’s or higher or to rack up AP credits. If they are able to do it without being stressed out…great, but I have seen too many teenagers fall into the stress of school, and I refuse to let my kids go through that.”
“I wish you knew that I AM teaching my child manners but sometimes she just doesn’t obey. It’s not because I’m a bad parent or she’s a bad child. It’s no different than when your boss asks you to do something then you immediately have something come up in your personal life and you forget or misplace that information. They make mistakes too and their attention span IS shorter than ours.”
“What little time we have with our kids – we do not want to fight over homework. Keep it short.”
“It’s hard to find time to read and sign all those forms and papers. Keep in for short and to the point.”
“That not all kids have both parents at home or in the lives on a daily basis due to distance but as a parent I would still like to be informed on my child’s progress and parent type activities because their other parent doesn’t/refuses to communicate such things. I wish I didn’t feel so left out.”