05 May Counting Down #KidsDeserveIt
This post was co-written with Roman Nowak.
On social media, so often we see posts of countdowns to the weekend, Christmas, Spring Break, summer; it is usually accompanied by elation and celebration. As students and educators, we often can’t wait until there is a break from school. Why is that? We know it’s because we work HARD! Education is a tireless job and the breaks are something we look forward to and desperately need.
This “tradition” has been around for many decades. We don’t know about you, but we can definitely remember our teachers keeping track of countdowns. In many cases it isn’t done with a negative intention; however this seemingly harmless practice can have profound consequences.
You may have heard the phrase “perception is reality”; think about it, when someone online, who is not an educator, sees us gleefully posting about how much we can’t wait for a break, what message does that send? What about to the parents of the children we serve? It sends a message of “these kids are driving me insane and I need a break” or “Woe is me, my job is so much harder than others so I deserve this break”. Now don’t get us wrong, teachers do work hard. We work harder than most realize and with many unpaid hours. But again, what message do we really want to be putting out there?
Let’s have a quick comparison with anyone who has ever trained a dog. We are taught with dogs to be conscious of our tone of voice. When disciplining a dog for a bad action, we should not use a pleasant voice, because a dog will associate that with good behavior. This of course is possible because of that pleasant tone we use to praise a dog. We are also taught to be repetitive with dogs. In order for behaviour to be learned, it must be constantly addressed.
Now let’s come back to school. Hypothetically, from a young age, teachers put down that innocent countdown on a blackboard or a bulletin board. Also regularly, when referring to that countdown, a pleasant and often exciting voice is used by the teacher. Students in turn mimic that pleasant voice and share their excitement from that break from school. We all need breaks because we feel tired, overworked, and uninspired. But we think that maybe instead we should be building up a pleasant tone with the amount of time we have left!
I don’t know about you, but we’ve had those teachers who talk about how they can’t wait to be out of this school. How they deserve this break. And as a student, I (Todd) remember a teacher once telling us just that, and somehow, in someway, I felt like the problem. I felt like it was my fault the teacher was counting down the day until she could rid herself of me and my classmates.
I (Roman) also had a similar experience. As a child, I loved school. It was a place to learn new things, to meet new people and to escape reality that wasn’t always fun. I knew that no matter what, with the teachers that were there, I was in a safe place where I could shine and be recognized. Every time teachers would put up that countdown, I would always feel a sense of being weird and different. While most were like the teachers, happy to be escaping school, I was disappointed that I wouldn’t be in my “fun place” for the summer. These made me feel inadequate. I couldn’t share what I felt because no one would understand. Unbeknownst to be, I kept this tradition alive in my early years of teaching.
This is where our disappointment comes in; disappointment for two reasons. First, we all have been guilty of this practice in our careers. Second, disappointment because the very job we chose out of love for learning and teaching has so many students and teachers celebrating the end moment instead of focusing on the here and now.
And that’s the kind of countdowns we now need to hold in our offices and classrooms. Not countdowns that celebrate the moment we get to “escape”, but instead countdowns that celebrate the moments we have left. Even more, why not start a count up until the beginning of the next school year, where greater learning adventures and fun will take place? Where all of us, kids and adults alike, will grow together as a family.
Our world is so filled with turmoil and pain. As educators we are held to a different (and sometimes unfair) standard. So even though it may seem like a countdown to summer is innocent, we have to take a step back and evaluate. What is the message we’re sending, even unintentionally?
We know that the message we want to send is that every moment matters. That even though we look forward to time with our families and time to decompress, we know that at school, that is a child’s safe place. A child’s place to feel valued, important, worthy, and get the best education possible.
Let’s not countdown the moments until we have a break, and instead starting today, let’s countdown the moments that we have left to make a difference in the lives before us. Our #KidsDeserveIt.