In our book, Building Authenticity, Tyler Cook and I explore a concept that resonates deeply with me: the vital importance of recognizing the inherent value in others, or as we like to call it, finding the gold within them.

This idea is pivotal. It challenges the old saying, “If you don’t have something nice to say, don’t say anything at all.” In an era where social media often becomes a platform for negativity, even if not directly spoken, this traditional saying loses its impact. That’s why I so love Kid President’s reimagining of this phrase: “If you don’t have anything nice to say, you’re not thinking hard enough.” Take a moment to really absorb the depth of that statement.

We’ve all encountered someone, be it a child or an adult, who seems to constantly clash with us. It’s in these moments that I remind myself of two things:

1. My experience with someone doesn’t define their worth – to someone else, they might be the most extraordinary person in the world.
2. It’s my responsibility, not theirs, to find the gold within them.

Let’s be honest, this task isn’t always easy. It often demands effort and patience, sometimes taking weeks. Yet, it remains a necessary part of our personal growth.

We must move away from casually labeling others with derogatory remarks. Statements like “that person is just a jerk,” “they are so annoying,” or “how do they even still work here?” reflect more about us than about that person.

So, perhaps today, like me, you find yourself in need of a shift in perspective. Remember that everyone, without exception, has extraordinary qualities. If we fail to recognize these in someone, it’s not a reflection of their deficiency, but rather a missed opportunity on our part.

Don’t let the chance to discover the hidden gold in someone pass you by.